Category self-help

The Storm before the Calm

There’s a process you start to realise when you’ve been doing therapy for a while – either as a therapist or a client. After the initial meetings when you’re getting to know what the situation is and make a plan, you move into a slower phase of ‘doing the work’. Depending on what kind of therapy […]

(Pause)

Stop. How are you reading this? Are you on your phone? At work? On a laptop in front of the TV? Would you mind taking a moment to focus just on this screen? Just notice your breathing. Is it fast? Slow? Just take a moment to slow it down. Take a nice long deep breath in […]

All I Want for Christmas is….Me

When I was growing up, our Christmas tradition (on Christmas Eve thanks to my Swedish dad) was to sit down with Glogg and cinnamon buns and take it in turns to unwrap our gifts, carefully and with some thought and discussion about each one. Like I said, my dad is Swedish. Last night, in a […]

Right. This. Second

Something I’ve noticed about parenthood is the immediacy of it. The urgency. Of course there are moments of calm, when your child is happily engaged and you can relax and enjoy watching their pleasure. And there’s nap time. But in between those times, the incessant demand, need and noise can become completely overwhelming. It’s so […]

Let it Go….

Let it goooo! Can’t hold it back any more. Let it go, let it go! Turn away and slam the door. I don’t care what they’re going to say. Let the storm rage on. The cold never bothered me anyway. I’m going to admit it. I haven’t seen Frozen yet. I’m not exactly sure who […]

Nurturing the Nurturer

Do me a favour. Go and get yourself a cup of tea and settle down. This one may take a little while. A caveat- this post is based around a therapeutic technique and, as such, you may read it and find yourself feeling upset or troubled, or that it raises memories or feelings that you’re […]

Ghost Busting

“In every nursery there are ghosts. They are the visitors from the unremembered past of the parents; the uninvited guests at the christening” Selma Fraiberg  So far, I’ve written a lot about how important it is to trust your instincts. Today, just when you were getting comfortable, I’m going to turn that on its head. […]