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A weekend alone (…mixed emotions) 

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Your children are not your children 

Your children are not your children.They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.  – Khalil Gibran The first time your child takes a step away from you, it can be heart wrenching. […]

The Politics of Parenting

Since the iPhone entered my world, with instant access to a limitless amount of information, I can’t even begin to imagine the number of articles I’ve read about parenting (mostly at 2am). Each day, I flick through at least 10 different opinions, ideas and instructions on how to be the best ever parent. And every […]

Turning the Tide

We’re in the middle of a sea change in parenting culture. Slowly we’re seeing a growth in child-centred practices and increasing criticism of parent driven, punitive and behavioural parenting techniques (I’m looking at you Supernanny). We know now, or at least there is increasing evidence to suggest, that ignoring unwanted behaviour can leave our children […]

Controlling the Controller

There’s an idea in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that anxiety is caused by misinterpreting a situation as unsafe.  It’s that fight or flight response again, the adrenaline rush that means when we’re faced with a big bear looming out of the woods, we are pumped up ready to either fight it off or run away as fast […]

Who’s capable?

I was musing this morning, when I awoke to the baby’s babbles on one side and my three year old’s foot in my ear on the other, on the idea of being capable. I remember as my eldest got older, increasingly I would hear statements suggesting I needed to push her forward in her progress. […]

Truth telling

I’ve been wondering lately about how open we should be with our children. This came after a few particular incidents when I found myself having to make a choice about whether, how, and how much to inform my 3 year old. The first was a biggie, separating from each other as she started preschool. The […]