When my eldest was about 6 months old, I called my husband at work and asked if he could be home before bathtime. His colleague, a dad himself, heard us on the phone and said to him:   “The sooner she realises she can’t rely on you, the better for both of you”.   I […]

Nobody tells you It’s the best feeling ever It’s the worst feeling ever Nobody tells you   Nobody tells you Contractions are murder Labour is harder Nobody tells you   Nobody tells you You’ll bleed like a geyser You’ll feed and you’ll feed her Nobody tells you   Nobody tells you Your breasts leak all […]

I’m finding it hard to write this. Partly because it’s very personal. Mainly because, as I write, I have a loud whooshing sound in my ears, zaps of bright light attacking the edges of my vision and a throbbing pressure on my head which gets worse when I move my head, walk, lie down or […]

Your children are not your children.They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.  – Khalil Gibran The first time your child takes a step away from you, it can be heart wrenching. […]

A toddler ate my baby She was lying over there Gazing at a shadow Now I can’t find her anywhere   A toddler ate my baby She was sitting over there Batting at a mobile Now I can’t find her anywhere   A toddler ate my baby She was rolling over there Turning turning back […]

Do you make your kids say sorry? It’s a question I’ve asked myself countless times during the various shoves, whacks, hair yanks and occasional bites I’ve dealt with over the past few years. When I was growing up, misdemeanours were immediately rectified with a parroted “Sorrrrrrry”, while we glared at each other. More serious misdemeanours […]

Stop. How are you reading this? Are you on your phone? At work? On a laptop in front of the TV? Would you mind taking a moment to focus just on this screen? Just notice your breathing. Is it fast? Slow? Just take a moment to slow it down. Take a nice long deep breath in […]